HECOL 410 Reflection Paper - "How I Plan to Parent"

Within HECOL 410 (Parent-Child Relationships), my journey unfolded as I embarked on a reflective exploration of my future parenting approach. We were tasked with artfully articulating a parenting plan. I wrote my reflection deeply rooted in the intricate tapestry of my traditional, collectivist, and Catholic upbringing. For this artefact, caregiving extended generously beyond my immediate family to encompass the nurturing hands of my parents, aunt, and great-uncle (see My Story). 

As I delved into my reflective paper, I examined my ingrained beliefs, particularly in the context of punitive childrearing. Wrestling with the realization that these practices were contextual and not universal, I found myself at a crossroads, compelled to reconcile my upbringing with the diverse and inclusive parenting approaches prevalent in Canada. My reflection catalyzed my perspectives and challenged preconceived notions, paving the way for a culturally competent and nuanced understanding of family dynamics (Sweitzer & King, 2019, p. 96). 

A daunting task emerged as I was planning my paper: placing myself within the narrative. My paper transformed into a space where I carefully painted the disparities between my parent's parenting style and the potential nuances of my future parenting.  My journey would unfold within the unique framework of a same-sex relationship, adopting children in a Canadian societal context—a stark departure from the heterosexual nuclear family that had shaped my formative years.

My exploration paper, a culmination of introspection, presented a nuanced portrayal of my evolving understanding of parenting. It skillfully showcases the integration of my familial values between tradition and modernity, collectivism and individualism, Catholic values and the ever-evolving societal landscape. While acknowledging the challenges of redefining my narrative in a different familial and cultural context, the result was a poignant depiction of the intricacies inherent in shaping a parenting plan that honours my roots and deftly navigates the complexities of contemporary Canadian society.

My reflective journey in HECOL 410, extending beyond the confines of academia, demanded more than a mere examination of parenting theories. It gestured a courageous confrontation with my evolving identity and the unique path my parenting journey is poised to take. Through this exploration, a deeper understanding of the importance of systems thinking and a human-ecological lens emerged, fostering collaborative learning efforts with diverse demographics. Furthermore, rooted in my lived experience through immigration and parenting, I aspire to contribute to social equity and holistic well-being, particularly in sustaining new immigrants within a new community.

This artefact significantly enhances my ability to navigate my three career aspirations with cultural competence (Sweitzer & King, 2019, p. 96). It provides practical insights and a nuanced perspective that will support me in roles such as a family physician, health promotion and education, or health policy analyst. By integrating cultural competence into my understanding of parenting dynamics, I aim to contribute meaningfully to the well-being of individuals and families, especially those navigating the complexities of immigration and parenthood.